Other Examples... What To Strive NOT To Be.
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Now Playing: Day 2573-Next GP Chapter... Turning Lemons Into Lemonade :)
Another day... Another inch closer to one of our lemonade homes great stone walls ready to collapse.
What we certainly did not need, is more rain for an already record rain season. Winter season. The constant rain and constantly changing temperatures has us scrambling for alternate solutions in vacating. Anything has to be safer, than what this house is sitting on, an unsafe foundation. Even if that means buying a 5th wheel way of life. The problem wasn't in getting the loan, since we did so in my name. The problem was finding a place to set up. A place that has a bit of privacy, not reaching out to shake hands with your neighbor.
Thanks, but no thanks!
It was an exciting, yet great idea for the perfect, not yet thought of, vacating a dangerous home opportunity. Unfortunately, it was a no-go, since there are no year round places that offer water connections in the winter. Who wants to spend more unnecessary money, buying a home on wheels and you can't find a place to park it? A great idea quickly went all downhill from there... Back to the drawing board...
Another problem we have been running into, is most home rental properties are now owned and managed by huge corporations. Private owned properties are becoming few and far between. One out of every 50 rentals, are now owned by large corporations. A mere, home rental Monopoly. Not only do they charge you, per person in the household, application fee, but as well make it virtually impossible to be approved. We only did one round of applications, with one large company, only to find out that Snoreo was not accepted because he is part German Shepherd. BAH! They accept mixed breed dogs, but not if they are part German Shepherd. Not only ridiculous, but a waste of application fee $$ and valuable time that I do not have to waste in the first place. We did rent from a private owner prior to purchasing our doomed home, but once we went under contract, we gave our 60 day vacate notice to the owner. For some reason, there are family members who are stating we got evicted, which is down right silly! We have the letter stating we gave our 60 day notice, yet, once again we find ourselves defending such a silly, ridiculous assumption. All because Snoreo was not approved. Not because of any eviction, because we never got evicted, we gave a 60 day notice after going under contract. Nothing more annoying than folks causing more unnecessary stress. Especially, when we have enough going on and far more important things to worry about, like... Finding a safe home while our doomed home sits in litigation. AMEN.
We have only been able to find, so far, 3 private rental homes. The three that we viewed were all beyond dirty from top to bottom. What some folks refuse to understand, is that when you have an already compromised immune system, that can no longer fight off infections. You CAN NOT move into a filthy, dirty, nasty, unkempt rental home. You CAN NOT also subject yourself to attempting to clean a rental property, in which, the private owners are just too lazy or too money hunger to clean up after the prior tenants. We have now seen this 3 times, too many, for our liking. Eric only has the garage to finish packing as it looks like our final big move destination, Nevada, will be here sooner than we anticipated. We have been constantly looking for a temporary rental home, but unfortunately, have been unsuccessful. Due to health reasons, on my end, we also do not have time to wait around, it's now or never.
What bothers Eric the most, out of this entire unfortunate situation, is watching the reactions of those who took part in causing stress and problems for us over the past 5 years. The same individuals who have caused escalated problems, should be the ones helping to look for a rental. What I try time and time again to have Eric understand, is the same as what others have already told him. "They don't care. They did what they did and ran for the hills. They don't care about anyone, but themselves. Don't worry about those who aren't worth worrying about in the first place." I just hope that one day, Eric will understand that all the time and energy, isn't worth investing in those who aren't worth investing into. My motto this year, "Let it go..." We all have to live with our actions at the end of the day. I believe that we all, in time, will also have to explain our actions to a higher power in heaven. Eric looked at me this afternoon and said, "I got a problem with those who care more about someone out on parole or those who have stole money and drugs for addiction issues, compared to caring for their own blood." Well... as I said... We all have to come to grips with our decisions some time in our lives. If someone is more worried about saving the life of someone addicted to pills than their own blood, then they must be OK with the person in the mirror looking back at them. If I am to treat someone out on parole, far better than someone that is one with my own blood. Then the old saying isn't necessarily true. "Blood is thicker than water." Sadly, priorities in this day and age are pretty screwed up.
I must had been born in the wrong generation.
During a mere, 3 private owned property viewings, that we have viewed over the past 2 months. One private owner really left a lasting impression on both of us, as I accidentally contacted them through a connected GP website email account. What I wasn't expecting, after realizing it was another property in need of serious cleaning and updating, before just whisking one tenant out and the next day, whisking another one in...
"How do you know about Gastroparesis?"
~I am a Gastroparesis patient, of 11 years.
"So you are the one who owns the website? You are the same person, the founder?"
~A ummm... reply... y-e-s...
"My granddaughter recently got diagnosed with Gastroparesis. They told her it was from a rare genetic disease. She has a list of other problems. Probably 19 other things. It's always something."
We would had been perfectly fine with hearing the story, however, the facial expressions and lack of compassion for another family member struck a cord with us. Instead of supportive, we felt more as if, the person was explaining how much of a burden their grandchild was for being so sick, with multiple, obvious to me, connected issues. Gastroparesis isn't just something you acquire by a mere diagnosis. It is a condition that is connecting with a pre-existing issue. A complication. Sometimes the connected diagnosis is found. Other times, it is not.
We both left feeling absolutely horrible for the grandchild whom we were told is so sick with so many issues, as if a mere burden. Clearly, the reasons for starting the Gastroparesis Awareness Campaign, were the exact reasons for hearing such a story. So patients do not feel alone. I know that feeling. Feeling as if only to be a burden to loved ones. It's not a good feeling, especially when such hatred is behind it. No one asks to be sick, yet, I don't sit well with hearing such lack of compassion from any loved one. Regardless if it is Gastroparesis, cancer, MS, diabetes or any other medical condition. At the end of the day, not one single patient, asks to be sick. What patients do ask? To be RESPECTED.
Respect means you don't create stress, conflict nor jeopardize ones place of residency. Respect doesn't mean you constantly bash, belittle, make light or fun of someone who is sick. Respect means you don't butt into or jeopardize care, privacy between a patient and their doctor. Respect means that regardless of how you feel about the patients spouse or caregiver, you still respect the patients spouse or caregiver. Respect means not putting down someone who is sick to their friends, neighbors, landlord, place of employment or to other family members. Respect is when you care and have enough compassion in your heart, as a decent human being, to include them in not only your life, but the lives of your family, children, grandchildren, etc. The ultimate form of respect for anyone who is sick, whom did not ask to be sick, is to respect the patient enough, that when the cards come tumbling down. YOU, the decent HUMAN BEING, have enough compassion and a big enough heart and are a big enough person to catch the person, loved one, friend or family member, when they FALL.
Is there a lesson to be learned from this blog entry? Well... if you look in the mirror and you find yourself being this person who treats those who are sick in any of the above, way, shape or form. Then yes, there is a blog lesson to be learned. How we should never strive to be and how to never, ever treat those who are sick.
Those who never ask to be sick, but do ask to be RESPECTED.
Posted by GastroparesisAwarenessCampaignOrg.
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Updated: January 21, 2017 10:53 AM EST