The World Needs More Barbs'~Truth, Fact, Opinion.
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This is going to be a mixture of truth, fact and opinion.
I felt after receiving two separate court filings, over the past week from strangers back across state lines...after quite a few questions from those whom also took a good look at both public court documents. This was the perfect time to answer some questions. Actually...also reply to both individuals court filings for what should be taken seriously in the court of law.
Restraining filings. TPO. Temporary restraining orders.
Why, you may ask? Because we feel the need to have folks in this world understand that these court orders should not be filed out of spite, bitterness or a means of alternate ways for those who do-not-know how to communicate. We have seen these court orders being used and thrown around like changing your socks on a daily basis. Anything, but taken seriously, in which restraining orders, TPO filings should be taken seriously and only used when your life is in immediate and dire danger. Not used as a mere form of controlling someone's-anyone's, thoughts, feelings or opinions. Especially, when we are reading that a young lady, no longer a niece, stated that we discussed driving past a grandparents house on the day of their birthday. First of all...we do not know this young ladies birth date. Haven't in years, because that date is no longer on a wall calendar. Secondly, we were given permission to come over and retrieve moving totes with a U-Haul out of their basement, in which, that U-Haul reservation and deposit was booked a month prior. Permission given weeks prior by this young ladies grandparents, that anytime on the weekend was okay to come over. Instead, the spouse and his friend had to contact me because they could not find the house. All because of a new fence that was installed, after the spouse had to send a text message photo to make sure this was even the right residence to begin with. The spouse had only been over the grandparents a mere two-times prior. However, this individual made nothing, but a mere miscalculated assumption on a court document out of two people just trying to get a U-Haul over to pick up moving totes. Who in their right mind just throws away over $200.000 in U-Haul fees for nothing? Come on now...seriously.
Yes, that's just one of many issues when people feel the need to make great assumptions or lie on court documents when they don't have their facts straight. If you can't communicate in the first place. Then please seek someone, even a therapist, who can teach you the art of communication.
Even more strange, is the same individual saying that we voiced our feelings of being hurt. Not invited to a wedding on a court order as they felt this was a life-threatening issue enough to attempt filing a restraining order. Which was denied. The fact is...with T-Mobile phone records in hand. That same niece, who is now a stranger, called our phone a week before their wedding. Why? After not hearing from them over several years? All to let us know that they didn't invite us nor their fiancés Aunt to their own wedding. Okay....why bother calling our phone? It just made absolutely no sense to anyone in the first place. And then try to file a restraining order when they were the ones contacting us in the first place. I don't get it. Actually, no one will ever be able to truly understand or get it. It's not meant to understand. It's meant to be left in the past. Just like these filings and the strangers who attempted, yet were once again, denied and dismissed in court. The court of law should be taken seriously. Not for a means to throw mere lack of communication, mere pettiness among family.
Another member, was always a stranger, stated that we were actually talking about going to a place of business recently????. Ummmm...last time I looked. We moved out of state to get far, far away from folks like this who cause nothing but chaos. We moved far away to finally get some much needed, peace and quiet. Why would we want to visit any business back out of a state we moved away from, after several years of absence, in the first place?. That was as-bad-as saying they lost money on a different public court document, after opening more locations and gains with assets showing a far different story.
Trying to control a persons feelings or attempting to silence someone is mere bullying. Having feelings is called, being human. Using a restraining order document, that got denied, stating that we are friends with mutual friends. Ummmm...yes...that does happen in life. Even when you move far away, out of state, in the country. How one can list it on a restraining order as a means of their life being at risk because of mere mutual friends...is silly. People do have friends or acquaintances that can also be friends or acquaintances with someone else. Even...family. 'Information,' as stated in the public court filing. Information from mutual friends that were only mere asking, once again, if we were going to be present at a family wedding. Other questions of concern, by those mutual friends, who are reading this right now. Questions of concern on why family can not sit down, work their issues out, instead of always running to the courts. Truth, fact and opinion.
To both individuals, mere strangers now for the remainder of our lifetime. Stress is correct. The only true statement on the public court filings. When you continue to not allow those who are ill, some sort of peace. These constant unnecessary, ridiculous, immature ways of trying to control someone's thoughts and feelings. Can yes! Factually cause further stress and complications on someone's, anyone's health. That was about the only thing that made sense out of such a very sad, once again, disappointing act of pettiness. The court is a very serious place to handle serious legal matters and should be taken respectfully.
This isn't the first that these same folks, back across state lines...mere strangers at the most...have once again caused more problems. Especially when things were finally beginning to become peaceful among distant family. Why in the world can't some folks, just act like grown adults and sit down to communicate their problems and work out their issues. Instead of choosing such ridiculous behavior and means of some sort of twisted way of seeking power of who-knows-why and for-who-knows what.
First...being sued in a different court across state lines for $20,000 by those who used to be family. Dismissed by the judge. These individuals are now strangers in our eyes. This was due to the members feeling that this blog was hurting their business. Worse...they claimed in a public court document, filing, that I wasn't sick. Sick...is knowing there are actually folks out there whom really do things like this and say even far craziest things on court documents. Especially, those who used to be family. Trust me...no longer do I feel the need to defend myself regarding my health. I am not under oncology care nor literally cooked and fried myself internally under the big 6-arm bandit, radiation machine, for nothing.
Who I really feel sorry for the most...isn't us.
I feel sorry for no longer family members who literally can take the time to attempt destroying another family members life. Whether alone...like this latest denied, dismissed public court documents...literally attempting to once again, place further stress that can kill someone if that someone let it.
Not me. Not us. Not I.
I look at these extremely dysfunctional family issues as a means to learn a great lesson of life. The lesson is to 'allow' yourself to embrace the fight, because what most don't understand, is that what doesn't kill you. DOES make you that much STRONGER! Amen. These same folks, causing the same ole problems serve as a great lesson for everyone who has read both separate public court filings. Even those whom still hold onto the last $20,000 lawsuit filing...ridiculous. Really, actually, pettiness. Yet, that judge literally pulled all parties into their chamber. So much as to tell a great lesson and story, sharing with the family members who filed such a lawsuit against us. A story that clearly they failed to listen to regarding the judge's own sibling, their brothers cancer journey, but I don't feel the same can be said to the attorney. They listened, because there was a great lesson to be learned on how you don't treat family.
You don't sue your own family members, blood relatives as a means of power, control and literally attempting to destroy lives. You don't lie or write down great assumptions on restraining orders or TPO filings because you can't handle that people have a voice and they are entitled, much like those whom are now strangers, to use it. What you don't do...is lie or fabricate things on court documents in order to gain some sort of twisted control over others. That's called, bullying. There are other terms, but I like to keep it simple for those reading. Anyone in their right frame of mind who is going through a long, windy road within their own cancer journey. Would never put up with such behavior, intentional behavior and sheer pettiness by their own blood relatives. Immediate family. What everyone should learn by reading this blog is how to respect yourself. Respect your life and also the privilege of having some upmost peace and quiet through out your entire medical journey.
Never, ever, ever allow anyone, including family, to bully you into silence. Never, ever allow anyone to literally try to diminish you into nothing. Never, ever allow anyone to extinguish your beaming light of love and happiness. Even if those individuals, strangers or folks...are family. A real, true, god-given family doesn't sue you for $20,000. A family that cares about you doesn't minimize or make fun of you while you are sick and fighting. Family means loving one another and taking the time to be there for one another. These court filings say a lot. But most importantly.
They don't say...family.
We are all embarrassed, ashamed, yet not surprised to read such public court documents that got dismissed and denied. All for what? What did these now mere strangers really gain? I know. We all know. Absolutely nothing. Surely, I hope that once again, a great lesson is learned. How never, ever to treat family members. An even far greater lesson for all blog readers. This shall be an example set for how you should never, ever treat family.
As far as Barbs' in this world. As a parent...never poke fun by saying to any adult child that they purchased a dump of a home. Or stating, "It's a lemon." Parents are suppose to be supportive of their child or children, young or adult. No matter what the circumstance. Now that dump is not-so-much of a dump anymore. After that same comment ignited a fire within! A house of gems...now turned into sweet~SWEET lemonade! I got to listen to Barb again on the phone last night. This time, another punch in the face, unnecessary jab comment to their adult child, "I am sure it's hard not working at your age." Ummmm....a comment that came out of nowhere and for no good reason. But just like that! Another fire was lit, after really believing it was permanently distinguished. Thank you Barb for igniting another internal flame within! If it wasn't for the constant insults and put-downs. I wouldn't have become the strong woman that I am today. Even while fighting this end of my journey. Your comment lit an internal match that once again, ignited a flame. I am back again working on both online businesses this evening. Trying is only half the battle. I may not have become successful finishing both websites yet, but if god-willing...I plan on proving you wrong...again.
Among the trials and tribulations through this crazy place we call, life. There is always a silver lining. In our case...we need Barbs' in this world in order to help reignite that sheer determination. The great fight for life.
That undeniable fire within.
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Updated: October 25, 2017 3:13 PM EDT