Looking Forward To Some Warm...Desert...Sand :)
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This would be a great week and upcoming weekend to stay indoors!
92+ degrees for the next several days...UGGGG..
I can't believe that we are starting off the first day of fall with tank tops, shorts and flip-flops?. Forget the big, comfy, clothes! Looks like it's back to the summer attire...again. Even Dairy Queen down the road from us decided to stay open another week. Why not?! With the hot, humid temperatures here to stay, at least another week. Who wouldn't keep their ice cream stand open to profit from some cold, tasty treats!
Even our window contractor was hoping for a much cooler day to install some new screens. But instead of me assisting him. Eric had to help him after receiving an unexpected phone call. Yep...I never, EVER answer the phone if I don't recognize the number. However...we were anticipating my specialists call back in Ohio which was suppose to be after their last appointment of the day. Boy! OH BOY! Was answering the phone to an unrecognizable number a big mistake!
More like...A HUGE mistake! HA!
Yep, this is pretty much us. After first of all not being able to hear the person on other line. Then secondly getting disconnected by the person on the line more than a few times. Then hearing a constant...BEEP.BEEP. Please remember, it's against the law to tape record someone without their knowledge. We only say this because clearly the call was beyond a bit sketchy. It absolutely made no sense. Let's just say as myself and Eric both agree...there must be a puppet master somewhere among immediate family. An individual who dictates who and when to orchestrate a family member to contact us out of the blue. Usually from either a private number or like today...a number not recognizable to myself or Eric. Let's also say that it usually never ends on a good note of any sort. In fact. The ridiculous phone calls of irrational, poor, condescending, heartless behavior from those on the other end of the phone doesn't end very pleasantly. In fact. I have lost track of how many times I have been hung up on by immediate family members because they can't handle the truth. Trying to speak some logic into those who either put the phone down while you are trying to talk, yet alone, communicate is one rude fact. Then there are those...like today...who literally can't handle the truth and just instead hang up the phone on you time and time again.
Why bother contacting us if you can't be a mature, articulate adult enough to handle a full conversation. Better yet...here on out if anyone in the immediate family wants to talk to us. It will only be allowed at a table for all. Because everyone has a chair at the table to explain themselves and their rude, cold, heartless, bully mentality ways they have treated other family members. Please, don't mistake our kindness for picking up the phone or text messages as another way to feel you are going to walk all over us. Time and time and time again. We have had our limit. It won't continue happening over and over and over again. 6 years is far too long. We regret not slamming doors shut for good, valid, justifiable reasons many times over again. And who could really blame us when once again another immature, condescending, rude-as-hell phone call is taken from another immediate family member. Again.
Honestly...I had to chuckle. Yet in reality. We are still shaking our head. Because who calls their only Aunt on their Mother's side to let them know that they called because they were told to call. Due to their Grandmother being upset. Why? Because they need to tell us that myself, Eric and our stepson are not invited to their wedding. Ummmm...Boo bear...Sherlock Holmes kinda figure that out...like...two bridal showers ago. Maybe even graduations ago...baby showers ago...births of children ago....holidays ago...family dinners, birthdays, other weddings and the list goes on and on and on. If your intent was to throw another sword in our back. Your Aunt, your Uncle and a stepson you refuse to even meet. It didn't work. You see...when you are adult enough. Mature enough and have enough love and self respect enough. You wouldn't had to make a phone call in the first place. An invitation would had shown us where your heart is instead.Your phone call which you should had not even bothered since you stated you as well did not invite even your own fiancés Aunt. Reason? Because that Aunt and their Sister do not talk. Remember the ole saying? Be an adult, smile and suck it up buttercup! It's called being the bigger person. Sounds like another dysfunctional family problem. Mind you...I am sure that Aunt is as well tickled pink and mighty proud of their nephew and his fiancé for not being invited to their wedding... So why bother to had called us? Do yourself a favor. Don't bother. Especially when you didn't want to call in the first place. Another orchestrated phone call from someone dictating it behind the scenes. This isn't the first time this has happened. But we will make sure this will never, ever happen again.
I am sorry to some if we sound brash, harsh or even a wee bit rude. But enough is enough. We are entitled to our feelings. We are also entitled to our opinions. We even have an immediate family member who states that it is perfectly fine to talk about us and our son in a group setting. As they said, "As long as it's not online." Ummmm...you don't talk about your adult children in the first place. A parents roll and responsibility is to love their child or children...unconditionally. Talking poorly about your adult child only causes mistrust and destroys any type of relationship. It should never happen. If you need to do so, how about not using names instead.
For any niece to contact us. To let us know that they decided not to invite their Aunt, Uncle and their son to an important life time event. Their own wedding. Speaks VOLUMES about not just that niece, but the rest of the entire immediate family. It also speaks volumes about any grandparent that puts the grandchild up to calling us which is their own daughter, son-in-law and grandchild. So they can let them know they aren't invited to their wedding? Who does such a rude thing?!?. We found out today. The stranger on the other line. A niece.
Boo bear...Why bother?.
You see...there really is a silver lining in every misfortunate thing in life. That phone call was really a blessing. Because myself and Eric have truly got to see how cold, rude and cowardly immediate family can really be when it comes down to it. Who looks really cold, heartless and ridiculous is when those who get married do not invite their own immediate family. Then immediate family members are seen by many others laughing, smiling and taking more pictures for the camera. Making it known to everyone that those nothing absent family members means nothing to them. Blind to reality of those who are missing. Treating us like we are dead already is the epitome of what isn't family. No one would put up with that kind of rudeness from a stranger nor any type of friend. Whether alone put up with it from immediate family. We think not. For a niece to tell us on the phone that they did so because..." I haven't spoken to you." Sorry, but that is a lousy excuse. Try again. For anyone to think this kind of behavior is okay. Needs to think again.. Hey Boo bear...it takes calling us to speak to us. But when you are too busy calling us crazy to many back across state lines in group, social and family settings. Maybe you should had instead taken that time to extend a chair to sit down and work out issues as a family. But that takes being an adult and not being a coward. It takes facing your problems head on. Instead of running and hiding. You can open a million businesses, run a trillion miles, take a million trips. But you can't out-run your problems. And we all have a conscious inside us...somewhere. In time, that too will most definitely catch up with you. So when you treat others as less of humans. When they should be treated as family members. Think with your heart first. Instead of the ego in your head.
This is what happens when others have far too big of an ego. It takes a real adult to sit down as a big adult. At a table with a chair for all immediate family. To sit down, work through problems and issues as an adult. As a family. Myself and Eric have extended that offer out to immediate family far too many times, that has only, once again, fell on deaf ears. Their excuse, once again; "We are too busy." Yea....r-i-g-h-t... Even text messages to immediate family fell once again on frozen hands and deaf ears. One grows tired of trying to have a civil, adult round table discussion to work through family drama, family problems and the far more serious issues and matters at hand.
As we continue moving forward in our life. HAPPILY. Because we most definitely deserve it. AMEN. We have far more important matters for us to address at hand. As a change of address in less than 6 months. Nevada and the final stretch of this long moving process. There awaits for us a new adventure and friends who will be helping us with our final transition. A new home. A new life. Who has time for today's drama?.
Not myself. Not Eric. Not the warm desert sand.
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Updated: September 23, 2017 5:59 AM EDT