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sharpNow Playing: Day 713-The Final Road To Survival
"Money does not change people. It only unmasks them." If a person is naturally selfish, arrogant or greedy, the money brings that out, that is all.
There's a fine line in the sand between "making a lot of money" and "being greedy." Where is that line? It's around the point when you start to sacrifice yourself and your family all for a dollar. It's around the point when you start to throw away your morals and ethics for a dollar. When you lose sight of everything including common sense is when you are in real trouble. Aside from greed the bad karma that follows is bound to get you also in trouble.
I have seen and personally met people through out my life that do well and then those who don't do well when coming into money whether by inheritance or a successful business venture. I have also seen truly good genuine people change into someone that I don't think they even recognize in the mirror all because of money. Its sad when you think about those who suffer in the world but still have the heart to reach out to others who also suffer then you have those who live high off the pig that gain nothing but inhumanity by the almighty dollar. Someone told me today that those who reach a high financial statue should be set a limit via through the government when their income meets expectations and forced to donate a small percentage to an organization helping others who are less fortunate. I agree. I also personally feel that the individual should be told to take one full day once a month working along side a disabled and less fortunate person unlike themselves so they can appreciate where their money is going. This will also humble any individual who doesn't know the true meaning of suffering. Amen.
Sure. These are wonderful ideas but this is the real world where such a thing would never happen.
I woke up around 2:30pm today feeling extremely dizzy and cold. This could only to me mean one thing. Either my blood pressure was once again running a bit too low or it is my blood sugar. I carefully got my leg up and moved it off the couch then stumbled into the kitchen to test my blood sugar level. Sure enough! way, way too low and no wonder I am feeling horrible. The sugar rush begins once again so between candy, glucose tablets and gel I was finally able to get my sugar level back up to a safer range.
The weather has been picture perfect the past few days and I sure wish it could stay this way all year. 68-70 degrees is perfect! The park in front of my home has been quite busy with walkers, bikers and then those just enjoying some time in the sun. Me and my friend-Caregiver have been doing our best to get out and keep my spine from locking up. Same goes with my leg so its been a toss up between the ole cane and wheelchair. 
We both came upon the most sweetest thing in the world walking around the park when an elderly couple was sitting on the park bench as the husband was reading a book to his wife. We both couldn't help but smile from ear to ear. Its rare moments like this in life when one realizes the small things that matter the most. In a world where you meet and see thousands of people it only takes one instant to truly touch your heart.
I finally have all my specialist appointments lined up for next week as well a few more tests. Sure, there will be no surgery in my future but its important my doctors stay in close communication with my overall care. I "thought" Drano would be placed on further hold with everything that is going on but once again that quickly came to an end as I was advised to start treatment late this afternoon. My Gastroenterologist doesn't need any more complications nor hurdles to jump so its better to be safe right now so unfortunately I had a date with Mr. Hell-In-A-Jug this evening. WHEW! If spinal pain and a numb leg isn't enough imagine the pain after treatment and the intestinal inflammation that follows. Ready or not Drano here I come!
With all the craziness and changes going on around me the mail brought a smile in a package today. One of my dear friends in Florida sent me another inspirational ocean rock to add to my collection. 
This one was perfect and is called, "Expect Miracles" along with a beautiful stone plaque to place near my Bible in the living room. Thank you so much Arline, you made my day!
My friend-Caregiver has been put through the ringer lately as he continues dealing with changes that have been brought on by helping me out. What those who are healthy fail to understand are the responsibilities that are placed upon a Caregiver. He doesn't get paid nor asks for any award but what he gave up in his life not because he was asked nor told but because he willingly stepped up to the plate seems not only to me but many others certainly unfair. He gave up his house in order to help with mine. He gave up a recent promotion with the Army in order to help me out. He did a shift change in order to be here for me so I am not alone while enduring treatments and could go with me to my doctors appointments. To anyone with a heart any person who puts their life on hold because they want to help someone sick or disabled is a hero. Instead he has been through hell and back all in the name of support. Just sad isn't it?
If I had the energy instead of just spreading awareness for Gastroparesis maybe I should also focus on raising money for the Caregivers and those who put their heart before their wallet. Amen. Instead I can only hope that either I hit the lottery or others who want to help step forward. Not because they have to but because much like myself they too have a heart. 
Amen.
rushed
My doctor totally understood the concern with my kidneys not functioning properly although the key is I don't have any infections going on with my kidneys. The problem I have is once again with nerve damage which allows my organs much like my kidneys to function properly. After speaking to a few other specialists of mine the past few days I agreed with my doctor that there isn't anything they can do and I am fortunate everything that was found by accident on the catscan is in the "beginning stages." WHEW! They can't nor will anyone do any type of surgery. My friend-Caregiver said, "If they found a bullet inside you right now they still won't do surgery." Very, very true because my chances of coming out of the surgery room are very slim and recovering from surgery even worse. My doctors decided that right now I need to understand they can't repair damaged nerves that are causing my organs to not work properly so honestly whats the sense of adding another specialist? If I develop a kidney infection or infections that is a different story but even a Nephrologist can't restart damaged and dying nerves. 
In between leaving one doctors appointment and heading straight to another we stopped by the pharmacy to drop off my prescriptions. I also called my GYN-Surgeon and they scheduled a ultrasound for next week to look at my problem ovary. This is the same ovary they had horrible problems with during my last nightmare surgery. Will they do anything with the ovary even after more testing? 95%-No. It is important to my other specialists to get the scan done in order to keep them updated so they can all work together with my care and managing the pain? Yes. My Oncologist-Hematologist will be gathering all the information he needs and I will be seeing him also next week. I am glad to divide up all these doctor visits over a two week period seeing I am already mentally and physically tired! My other doctors appointment today went as expected. My friend-Caregiver even said on our way out of my doctors office that sometimes you just feel better confirming what you already know to be true. Story of my life! Hahahaha!
Today I found my silver lining once again among the clouds. Amen.
hug me
Its been a week since my spine decided to shift and POOF! things forever changed. This also means things have forever changed with what my life used to be like including normal daily activities. Forget that new bike to ride this spring and fall. Forget wearing all the cute spring and summer sandals with any sort of heel. Forget having a 'me' day playing my own manicurist. Forget putting on my own shoes without finding a creative way to put them on myself. Now taking a shower and shaving my legs is a huge feat! I was told by my Neurosurgeon/Neurologist that the damage to my spine is done. They can not help nor fix the problem. The numbness that started at the top of my left leg has extended to my knee. There are times I am finding myself having to pick my leg up from the nerves dying but guess what? Deal with it! I only say this because things are not going to change and either I cry and act like a big baby or suck it up and act like a big girl! I chose the latter of the two. Hahahahaha! My friend-Caregiver is even getting a bit creative in order to help me sleep on the couchbed and recliner. Since the spinal damage is now predominately worse on the left side I must hang my hip and left leg over the couch or chair in order to ease the sharp nerve pain. This involves using a step stool with two chairs for elevating my hip/leg or using a chair and tube socks tied to create a sling to rest my leg. Maybe we are onto our own self home medical equipment store! Hahahaha!
My Oncologist/Hematologist has the job of taking over my troubled lymph nodes-two different sets that are working against me which are connected and related to those who have Lymphoma/Leukemia. My other specialists will not touch this new problem area and rightfully so until my Oncologist/Hematologist passes my care back to them. Not that I don't blame them. Its called, "Liability." Most feel over 14 specialists is a lot or too many but after many years it is proof that Gastroparesis invades various organs as it continues its path of destruction. Each specialist has an organ that he/she manages and treats when symptoms arise. They all work as a team and today they worked once again very quickly as they exchange notes and stay on top of things. My Psychologist will also be helping to continue keeping my attitude in check and spirits high in order to not allow this new list of problems to suck me down a never ending hole. Amen.
New problems mean new challenges. The new diet has been tough and I was never one for yogurt so my friend-Caregiver picked up some new frozen yogurt flavors today. The masks are hard to get used to and I sometimes forget to put one on before I walk outside but keeping my immune system safe is a must! Same with the darn cane that is already hurting the palm of my hand. If I could have a house that is one level with an open floor plan and the washer/dryer upstairs things would also be a million times easier. Little things you realize are important but only after life changes and you are faced with a new set of medical rules.
blue
I am so so so so so so so so tired of the stress! 
sad
This surely seemed like a full moon night because luck was not on my side. They took me back within five minutes into a room and started an IV line and fluids. The nurse went over my medical history and prior surgeries. They said, "Boy, do you have some bad luck!" Hahahaha! No lie there! Once they took my vitals and six vials of blood the doctor came into the room. The pain is now on day five and he was very glad I came up to the hospital. The next part of the examination started to turn for the worst. I literally was shaking and trembling in the hospital bed. My friend-Caregiver now became WIDE AWAKE when I was told I will most likely end up in surgery today. It seems I have something really bad going wrong. Not only that but once the tests came back and my catscan all the years of family comparing my Idiopathic Gastroparesis to those with cancer literally got rammed down my throat. I always couldn't understand why people compared my condition to cancer. Not only is it a disgrace to me but the person I am being compared to because every medical condition is totally different. A midnight trip to the ER ended up going into the morning hours. I like to say it was the second worst experience since being diagnosed over the last seven years. The worst experience was after my last surgery when everything that could possibly go wrong went wrong. 
To some this isn't the place to do an apology but since there are so many people involved right now I wanted to personally apologize for everyones actions. Over the past four days I have been flagged regarding some disturbing behavior. I do understand those who are contacting me are very concerned that the stress will jeopardize my current condition as they are looking out for my best interest. Some feel it is their responsibility to watch my back as they continue showing their concern regarding actions by my family. I personally do not condone this behavior and completely understand every ones concerns. It is also concerning my specialists who work extremely hard keeping me out of trouble and alive. 
down
This is my kind of weather in the low to mid 60's! Now if I can just get my body to heal and the pain to ease up long enough to enjoy it. My friend-Caregiver finally put the last touches on the new gym equipment. Since he takes care of me its easier for him to work out at the house in case of any emergency or if I need help with something. 
Now the GP room is also a fitness room! WOOHOA! I sure do miss working out. I worked out for years up until I got sick. You either find a joy and passion in it or you will end up giving up and slacking off. For him its a great way to relieve stress and let me tell you he has been put through some relentless stress lately not by my condition but by the actions of others. 
Speaking of NOT GOOD...After talking to a few fellow GP'ers and friends of mine I told one, "If this pain doesn't start easing up soon since its now shifting to the front I am going to end up back at the hospital." I can take a very high tolerance of pain but for some reason my gut is screaming something again isn't quite right because the same pain is still lingering but now it hurts to even breathe in or stand up. With my friend-Caregiver at work right now this might become a very, very interesting evening. Only time will tell...
I didn't get much sleep last night and tonight will be no exception. I once again couldn't get comfortable. I can't do treatment because of the pressure placed on my lower spine due to all the damage. Try sitting down whether alone on a toilet seat and making 24 hour bathroom trips after treatment-NOT. As per my specialists instructions today, "We will have to watch, wait and see on how your body responses over the next 48 hours." If things get worse its right back to the local ER.
This isn't going to be a fun next four weeks dealing with spinal trauma on top of my normal GP problems but where there is a will there is a way. I consider the last few days of stress a minor set back. Hey, it happens because life does involve both good and bad days. Per my doctors suggestions, "You must fill your life with a good support system not those who only want to bring you down." My friend Kevin said it and said it best, "If a sibling refuses to treat you like a normal human being and can't offer support then you need to quit trying. Why would anyone take any sibling constantly bullying and belittling another sibling especially when they are fully aware they are sick is just ridiculous." He always told me to never allow my condition to make me weak because I have always been a strong person. Kevin remembers my days working and traveling while hiding my illness. He has seen my determination with the situation because I kept trying but as he said, "You wouldn't put up with foul behavior from friends or strangers so why put up with it from a sibling? Because they are family and we always give family more than a few chances but their chances are up. Its time to move on." 
irritated
Maybe instead of all these vitamins that might had been a great idea that obviously aren't working I should instead just take some of this left over Miracle Gro and drink it! Hahahaha! Heck, it might get my hair and nails to start growing again! Yes, I am still taking everything at least until they are gone but at this point since I see nor feel any change I highly doubt I will try them again. I used to do liquid vitamins a few years ago and back then I even gave up because it didn't help matters. At least I give myself some credit for trying again.
I have used enough IcyHot, Activon, heat wraps, ice packs, Aspercreme and Tylenol that still here I am with the same gnarling pain. 
A normal spine would be nice then I wouldn't be faced with knowing I will be wheelchair bound by the end of the year or sooner. It would be nice to have a normal GI tract and organs so at least I could eat to my hearts content and take some of this bad news out on a half gallon of ice cream. Instead I took the news like a pro and nodded my head understanding that once again things aren't in my favor. For now all they could do is find a way to get the blood flowing to my damaged spine with three different medications. The problem now is the medications can cause reactions with the Drano aka Hell-In-A-Jug treatments but right now I can't even sit on the toilet to urinate without wanting to climb the walls so how could I endure treatment to start with? 
surprised
The temperatures are still in the mid 80's but hopefully things will change by this weekend. At least they are saying so but with weather you can never predict the unpredictable. The kitty gang have been enjoying the afternoon sun upstairs in their huge cat tree. Since the large bedroom window is facing the backyard and woods they all sit there and watch the birds and squirrels all day. Boy, they still have an easy life don't they?.
My friend is even starting to grow tired of the unnecessary stress and drama. What people don't understand is the responsibility placed on those who take on the caregiver roll. Not only do they have to protect the person physically but also mentally. My friend might had not been there once but he vows to never have it happen again. My condition at this present time requires someone staying with me. There is no way I could do it alone. My two other friends I keep in close contact with here in the city. They are very aware of my Gastroparesis and are ready when needed to step in when things get to the point that I need extra help.
d'oh
Where else but Ohio can you have snow then the next week summer weather and 85 degrees? 
I got some beautiful red roses today and a very nice card in honor of my GP anniversary from a dear friend. Thank you sooooooooo much! You made my day and brought a huge smile to my face. Its nice to know there are people out there who still treat you as the person you once were before becoming sick. I sure wish they could be a lesson for others. Amen. I have had a few old friends come out the woodwork over the past six months. I like to call them the "Houdini Friends." Those who disappear as quickly as they pop up in and out of your life. Maybe it was a guilty conscience or just curiosity that made them magically appear like nothing happened but a lesson learned as I resort back to watching who I trust. I have had enough hurt in my life and I don't need "Houdini Friends" that come and go when they please. Instead I should take that time and invest it in my real ones. Those who continue accepting me at face value even while being sick. A friend of mine I have known over the past 22 years gave me a few words of wisdom, "If they weren't there for you when things got tough then how in the world can they be there for you now? Look at the once again disappearing act and quit setting yourself up to get hurt." Great advice and once again lesson learned! 